A thirty year life

14 Feb '07 3:06 am

Dear Dixie, I know how sad you must have been when viewing the destruction of your beautiful garden and home of thirty years. However, I was happy to read that you are very happy where you are now. Recently I heard someone on TV talking about how to have a life focused on the positive and they made the statement that in order to welcome in new positive things in your life, it was necessary to let go of any negative energy that you might be holding onto. In other words, if your hands are full of old anger and regrets, they have no room to welcome in new positive things. I think you have recognized this and moved on.

Besides, what can never be taken from you are the happy memories and wonderful life experience you gained by being in that blessed space for so long. Those things you will carry with you to the end of your life on earth (and I believe beyond).

14 Feb '07 4:18 am

Releasing The Past

We are not slaves of our Pasts, slaves of our memories. We are free at any time to become aware of our behaviour patterns and belief systems, retaining those that contribute to our sense of vitality and fulfillment, and discarding those that belong to another place and time.

THE NEW, THE NOT YET SEEN, DWELLS AMONG US.

THE SMALL CHILD -- THE POWERFUL MASTER, THE NEW, THE ETERNAL.

ETERNITY IS NOT ETERNAL REPETITION, BUT THE ETERNALLY NEW!!

14 Feb '07 9:11 am

I don't understand why people buy certain properties and then denude the gardens. You'd think that was what attracted them to the property in the first place???
Sad

14 Feb '07 9:31 am

Anna, for the most of the people , the very word "property" = gain = money= wealth= power= glamour= fame. Do you think, that people , who take/feel their home as a "property", will not "denude" the garden attached to their... property, if needed? Do you really think, that the people who think/take their homes as "properties" are able to feel sentimentally attached, sensitive , tender, affectionate and protective towards their gardens , like the most of us in this Forum ?

But here we talk about THE NEW and the de-tachment from the dead Past! If a garden (or anything else ) we are sentimentally attached to prohibits/inhibits our evolvement ahead, and makes us sad and negative, then we have to realize that the attachement to the garden is wrong! Therefore, we should change immediately our behavioural patterns and beliefs, in order to start heading towards THE NEW ! The old garden= The dead Past!

14 Feb '07 9:58 am

Yes ,Looking at it all subjectively /objectively (?) ,I didn't feel anything - no resentment or bitterness -I felt sorry that they couldn't 'see' the beauty of living things .
My family had a wonderful life there ,there were always friends visiting and children playing outside with tree huts and grass slides and cricket games, but there was happiness and heartbreak .Each of us -the children and us -have had a vision and motivation for the rest of our lives .While I was living there all those years ,I had two dreams ,and both have now come true ,so I am so content .(One of them ,dear Moosey ,was to visit the South island )
Dixie.

15 Feb '07 4:07 am

Dear Dixie , I feel really relaxed about how you now face this part of your dear past..

But I have been thinking , how about those beloved ones of our past, who have now moved to another level of existence, or, simply, live elsewhere, away from us... They do not represent memories of dear old gardens or houses, or simply wrong beliefs or attitudes to be changed...

Concerning my parents -- while my mama is still alive -- I try to remember all their talents and merits, and ONLY the good moments I spent with them ; and , even so, NOT to be sentimental or emotional...I look back to Liza-child/youngster/teenager , as though she has been simply an actress of a well known film, completely de-tached from her! And in reality, thank God (!), I am NOT her, any more! Which means again, of course , that we are NOT slaves of our memories , and we can choose what we should keep from them, in order to continue living serene and fulfilled...In other words , we should LET GO! What is really extremelly essential in this process is that we should NEVER ask ourselves (bitterly) "Why??"!!

I am in my Here and Now now , and I love it! And there are so many more other problems = challenges for me to face and confront in my very Present! THE NEW in my spirit, in my mind, in my heart tenderly touches me! That is a real Life, isn't it!

16 Feb '07 3:17 am

My friends, I only discovered this thread just now and have read it from the start and, may I say, it has touched me deeply!

To start with, I truly sympathise with the destruction of your old garden, Dixie, but am so pleased you are able to see it now with a philosophical frame of mind. Where you are now should be the most important thing and you seem to be dealing with it so well Smile

Having said that, I have to admit to being guilty of not treating things in the past with the attitude that I should and what you say, Liza, is exactly how I try to tell myself to think (i.e. when my brain is doing the talking) but can't (when my heart/soul is in control). Things I regret doing/saying as a child/teenager/young adult still haunt me now but, in a way, if I find myself in a similar situation, I will (usually) not repeat the mistake of my past because I remember it and because that remembrance does affect me! Does that make sense? Rolling Eyes

16 Feb '07 3:41 am

Dear Bambi, Releasing the Past, is really a VERY difficult process!! It can take decades! But , the moment YOU SEE clearly as a spectator what is going on wrong in your behavioural and thinking patterns, the healing process starts automatically! In this way , you don't only start feeling a deeper respect, compassion, and love for your fellow human beings, but also, you stop feeling guilty and start really loving yourself ( in the respectful way)!!

You should "see" the young Bambi with compassion, because she was young and immature, and forgive her! Once and for all! And then, just LET GO!! Cut back the Past with a strong knife! Because it DOES NOT EXIST ANY MORE! IT IS NOT REAL ANY MORE! And now start dealing with the REAL Bambi, the Bambi of the NOW! And try to love her! Because she is adorable!Please, let THE NEW touch her tenderly and protectively! THE NEW comes, ONLY if YOU let the door open for it to come in...

16 Feb '07 5:11 am

16 Feb '07 5:23 am

Dear friend! First of all I think it is a blessing being able to discuss such important fields of our reality in this Forum! Thank you for expressing your precious thoughts ! Forum means expressing OPENLY , and with a democratic approach , various (gardening and) LIFE's own EXPERIENCE ! EXPERIENCE = having LIVED = EXPERIENCED the REAL THING! Our real self is NOW , not the one of our ended Past ! Or, according to you, we are the accumulation of our passed life so far. I do agree! But what life ? I do NOT talk about our physical/private History , of course ( : was born there, of this age , by such and such parents , and such and such ancestors, and when she/he...,.... bla, bla, bla...)!

We should never forget, that we are in an eternal process of evolution, mental, and spiritual that is! The two of them together create miracles - IF we only give them a chance! Believe me! So, yes, I have been in the body of the physical Liza of the past! But the Liza of the NOW , has NOTHING to do with that one , believe me! And I am talking on the mental, and the spiritual level, of course...I used to have so many phobies (=fears/uncertainties), in my past!..Used to have so many wrong attachments= wrong behavioural patterns and beliefs... Now I still have some new ones , and I try to fight them , whenever I "see" them..

So : YOU can choose to : end up your physical life hating or loving your parents, your ex-wife/companion/friend : end up your life feeling miserable because you were never rich and famous : end up your life being jealous of your "best" friend : end up your life thinking how awful you were when you were seven years old : end up your life feeling miserable because you are not 20 years old any more : end up your life feeling miserable remembering the house of your youth : end up your life feeling pity for yourself, because you did not realize the dream of your dad , but your own : end up your life ,feeling sorry for yourself, because you did not study to become a doctor: end up your life mourning for a loved one, and so on... It is up to YOU to choose whether you are going to evolve as a respectful entity ( meaning a global human being, with mind, body, and spirit), CHANGE within, and live a serene and fulfilled life ever after. The time to decide is NOW! And, confronting/fighting /facing the most delicate and deepest of human problems , I do not think is "an escape mechanism".

P.S. :

I have to add something really essential here : the WAY to change within, to release our Past, is up to each one of us : for example , I pray. I pray, in order to be shown the right way to solve my problems; any sort of problems.

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